The Joy Test
For those of you with anxious kids I challenge you to a test .
Furthermore, I encourage you to report the results to me
so we can share words of encouragement with other parents.
Okay so for one week straight I want you to go above and beyond
to make your kids happy. Give them extra treats (healthy ones too!)
Have extra play-dates. Take them somewhere special just
for them. Maybe to a movie of their choice.
Play a game of tag in the yard with them. Bike with them.
Really smother them with attention and love for one week.
Watch as their anxiety levels drop.
Joy releases endorphins related to feelings of goodness.
These endorphins naturally ease anxiety.
Now obviously you will need to be the judge as to how much
you spoil him or her during the experiment and afterwards
(once you realize it actually helps).
However, you will most likely see a difference.
Maybe they resist less going to bed?
Maybe they stay in their bed all night!
Maybe they are less shy and inhibited at a family or school function?
Maybe they agree to join a sports team?
Joy and anxiety don't mix.
Now, obviously we all do our very best to make our kids happy. The idea is not to place blame
of course that you are not doing enough because if we could do any better we would of course.
After all we are parents just trying to do our very best for our children.
Go easy on yourself.
The real point of this experiment is just to establish the connection between joy and anxiety.
I want to show you this connection and I think this is a good way to do it.
Establishing more joy does not necessarily mean spending lots of money on expensive toys and
such. Children usually are joyful just to spend time with a parent. Something we all struggle with
as busy parents.
Spread the joy and spend some quality time with your child this week.
You may find it does you some good as well.
Put down the ipad, computer or iphone and pick up your child and let them know they are
the most important things in your life. It will do good for both you and your child's joy.
Please let me know how you did with this experiment. I would love to hear from you.