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A Kids Guide to Overcoming Worry & Anxiety (made simple)

Anxiety Tools for Kids

 

                                                    

 

While we have tools to help children overcome debilitating anxiety by teaching them the art of exposure and acceptance- it is important to understand that children like adults naturally avoid pain and seek pleasure according to the pain-pleasure principal. Therefore, the sensations caused by anxiety are naturally going to be avoided.

 

To overcome anxiety one must perceive the pain they will go through during exposure to have a further purpose which is to increase pleasure (no more anxiety). They must give up their current state of comfort or pleasure (avoiding anxious sensations) to gain future pleasure of freedom from anxiety.

 

Sometimes the sensations of anxiety are so intense that exposure is just not something the person is willing to do. Remember -exposure is when we do the very thing that scares the heck out of us allowing all of the very sensations we naturally want to avoid like the racing and pounding heart, dizzy head, upset tummy..you get the idea.

 

So when the cure for an anxiety disorders calls to actually bring about or ‘expose’ oneself to those terrifying feelings we often just avoid and adapt our lives around feeling safe instead-Not living full lives void of anxiety.

 

When we allow our children to learn the MFC or magic finger countdown as adults have learned Panic Away’s 21, we give them a tool that allows them to feel a sense of control over the anxiety during exposure. With the MFC they feel safe to expose themselves to their fears and little by little they become confident in their body’s ability to handle those scary sensations.

 

With continued exposure (gradual exposure)  sensations fade because the fear fades. Eventually leaving only a memory of what it was like to have anxiety.

 

The idea at first is to gain a sense of control over the sensations by using the MFC. This perceived sense of control allows children (and adults) to actually engage in exposure with a sense of control and confidence. Many times without the MFC the child will not agree to engage in exposure at all. This is key. Getting the child to expose- and you have a better chance of doing this if they have the MFC tool.

 

Eventually, the ultimate goal is to feel safe with the sensations -no longer fearing an anxiety or panic attack. Once we no longer fear a panic or anxiety attack -we break the cycle and panic attacks no longer occur. Panic attacks are the result of fear of fear. Once you are no longer afraid to have a panic attack -because you know you are safe in your own body- you stop having them.

 

Giving tools to children to use during exposure process allows them to feel a sense of confidence to attempt and see the exposure process through. Eventually they will no longer need to use the MFC as they will have the confidence to embrace and accept sensations anxiety causes because they will have had experiences through the exposure process that reminds them -that their body can keep them safe even during the worst anxiety attack.  And, ironically, when one embraces and accepts the very feelings they fear--this is when debilitating anxiety really ends.

 

Embracing and accepting the very sensations you fear is your way to freedom.

What to Do When Your Child is Too Scared to Enjoy Halloween?!

 

Halloween ghosts, goblins and witches are sure to excite your little ones!

 

Now, depending on your little boy or girl, Halloween may also ignite some bedtime fears.

Bedtime fears can drain a child’s confidence, disrupt a good night’s sleep and worse off

breed the seed of fear.

 

Night fears are most common in children ages 3-6 because "this is the age at which normal

fears develop and a child's imagination is very active". (WebMD, 2013).

Many experts would recommend comforting and reassurance. Indeed comfort and reassure

your child but do this by teaching them a tool to handle scary situations even when your

are not there to help them. Give them the tools to master their scary feelings.

Their confidence will soar!

 

Scary thoughts create scary feelings.

A feeling can create all kinds of sensations like trembling legs, sweaty palms, upset tummy and such.

The list goes on...

And to top it off--if your child is very creative and has a wonderful imagination---well, you may

have a little one capable of thinking up just about anything (yikes!). The upside is that creativity

has been linked to high IQ. No, kidding! You never know--you may have to work with some night

time fears but you could be raising the next Einstein! (Who knew!)

 

Try gradually exposing your child to fun friendly costumes, books and movies. You can find

a list of these movies and books on our new Facebook page- Scaredies Away!

 

Happy Halloween!

Snipity Snapity @itchity Boo! Witches On The Playground And They're Only 3 Foot 2!

“What do you mean no one will play with you my love”!?.... (every parents nightmare)

Now she’s sad. Now you are sad. So simple but so complex.

Playground anxiety is a big deal to our little babies. Well, I know they are no longer babies by the time they are in school and on the playground but..aren’t they? Yes. They may dress themselves, feed themselves and even ride the school bus without us but they are “our” babies-- who will be there to comfort them when "no one will be my friend". My eyes well-up just thinking about it.

But, it does happen. And it happens a lot! Relax, its common during the early years for kids to feel this way. Wait it out. See how things go. Sometimes situations like these, change rather quickly-so don’t fret just yet.

Children play side by side (not too much interaction) during the early years and eventually learn integrated play where they play house with one another and eventually they lead into organized games with individual roles such as tag or most recently renamed “zombies” I’m told.

However, continuous negative playground experiences that do not seem to solve naturally made lead to some anxious children. Given the right social tools early enough can mitigate any lasting negative effects. Contact your school psychologist, counselor. school social worker or teacher for help in these matters. They are all wonderful resources. They have seen it all and tend to be really helpful in these areas.

IF your child experiences high levels of anxiety regarding a playground fear or almost any fear for that matter that does not seem to resolve naturally and is beginning to have a negative social, emotional and or physical impact; it is time to give them a tool to help them to feel more in control again and help them to get their confidence back.

Remember, anxiety can mask itself in many many forms, such as tummy aches, headaches, avoidance, disassociation and such. So to be sure, have them checked out by their MD first to rule-out any underlying medical conditions.

There is no need to suffer with debilitating worry and anxiety.

We have so many tools to offer children regarding anxiety these days. But, it is important to choose "the right" tool. The tool that actually works! No more distraction, counting, rocking etc. There is no need for your children to suffer any longer. Take control. Get your child the help he or she needs.

The MFC as found in Scaredies Away can be used for just about any fear in almost any situation from a fear of school, talking in front of a class to fear of a teacher or bully.

Kids have plenty of fears. We have one solution.

What to Do When Your Anxiety Becomes Your Child’s Anxiety

 

 

What to Do When Your Anxiety Becomes Your Child’s Anxiety

 

 

 

It has been a few weeks now that we have all been back to school.

 

 

 

Your children and your family are now settling into a routine.

 

 

 

Maybe this new -year brought with it a new teacher, new class friends,

new bus, different kind of homework?

 

 

 

Or maybe this year your child has to switch classes or navigate a locker?

 

 

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