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A Kids Guide to Overcoming Worry & Anxiety (made simple)

What To Do With My Anxious Child?


Teaching your child not be afraid is nearly impossible.

Kids and adults alike are afraid of things!

Fear is natural and GOOD.

Yes, GOOD.

It keeps you alive when a lion is about to attack by giving you adrenaline to run. REALLY FAST!

But, when too much fear overtakes the body with dreadful sensations like

Racing heart, dizziness, nausea, etc. people begin avoiding those situations that bring those sensations on.

This is where the problem begins. Your brain begins to get conditioned to think that in order to feel safe I must escape this situation that brings about these feelings. Next you create a new pattern of behavior of avoiding these situations. Even though your child really really does want to have a sleep over, they feel they are unsafe because of those “feelings” they get and they begin to avoid the very thing they want.

What to do:


Little Bumble Bee


When I was about 5 years old or so I remember my Grandfather telling me what goes up must come down!

He was teaching me about rain, clouds and precipitation at the time.

This reminded me of my most recent meditation. What goes up must come down?

This past Sunday I was coming out of a deep mediation and as I opened my eyes I saw a huge

yellow jacket bumble bee buzzing around my screened in porch.

It was bold and beautiful with quite an intimidating buzz.

I am not sure the bumble bee even knew the power it had over this other

creature which was a 1000 times bigger then it. That (it) being me!

I rushed to shut the screen door and quietly sat back in my meditation trying not too loose my steadfast gaze.

As I stared in awe at this beautiful, smart and wildly amazing bumble bee I noticed that she

had lost her way. As strong, powerful and magnificent as she was, she was lost.

She was stuck. She could not find her way.

That's kind of what happens when people get depressed and anxious.

They get stuck and cannot find their way out.


Kids, Anxiety & Imagination

Kids, Anxiety and Imagination

One thing is for sure. Kids with anxiety often have great imaginations.

That's what often gets them in trouble with anxiety. They have these incredible storylines that go on and on.

What if this.
What if that.
On and on

However imagination can work for them as well. Just as their imagination can lead them to worry, it can lead them out of worry too.


The Joy Test

The Joy Test

For those of you with anxious kids I challenge you to a test .

Furthermore, I encourage you to report the results to me

so we can share words of encouragement with other parents.

Okay so for one week straight I want you to go above and beyond

to make your kids happy. Give them extra treats (healthy ones too!) 

Have extra play-dates. Take them somewhere special just

for them. Maybe to a movie of their choice.

Play a game of tag in the yard with them. Bike with them.

Really smother them with attention and love for one week.

Watch as their anxiety levels drop.

Joy releases endorphins related to feelings of goodness.

These endorphins naturally ease anxiety.

Now obviously you will need to be the judge as to how much

you spoil him or her during the experiment and afterwards

(once you realize it actually helps).

However, you will most likely see a difference.

Maybe they resist less going to bed?

Maybe they stay in their bed all night!

Maybe they are less shy and inhibited at a family or school function?

Maybe they agree to join a sports team?

Joy and anxiety don't mix.

Now, obviously we all do our very best to make our kids happy. The idea is not to place blame

of course that you are not doing enough because if we could do any better we would of course.

After all we are parents just trying to do our very best for our children.

Go easy on yourself.


The real point of this experiment is just to establish the connection between joy and anxiety.

I want to show you this connection and I think this is a good way to do it.

Establishing more joy does not necessarily mean spending lots of money on expensive toys and

such. Children usually are joyful just to spend time with a parent. Something we all struggle with

as busy parents.

Spread the joy and spend some quality time with your child this week.

You may find it does you some good as well.

Put down the ipad, computer or iphone and pick up your child and let them know they are

the most important things in your life. It will do good for both you and your child's joy.

Please let me know how you did with this experiment. I would love to hear from you.

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