"Scaredies Away NOW ON SALE!"

A Kids Guide to Overcoming Worry & Anxiety (made simple)





Catching Panic and Anxiety at the Early Stages:

Preventitive and Proactive Steps for Your Children


I recently heard a story where a mom described the difference between how she herself experienced anxious sensations and how her 7 year old daughter experienced them. They were quite different indeed.



While the mom had been taught to label anxious sensations as fearful- like her 

racing heart or dizzy head--her 7 year old daughter

on the other hand, when experiencing those same sensations simply described

 the sensations without attaching the label 'fear' to them. The 7 year old made no connection

 between the sensations and fear. As it should be.  Scientific research shows your body is in

 no danger from an anxiety or panic attack. None at all. It just feels that way.



Learning to trust your body to handle the sensations by exposing yourself

to those very sensations and surviving them is the way to freedom.


Allowing the sensations to just come and go..and they do go...without attaching fear to them

will dissipate any fear one has over those sensations naturally. No more 'what if's', because you already know

'what if'   ...if it happens you'll live! Why? Because you did. Time and time again.


As we get older we tend to label these sensations, such as shaky legs,

 cannot breathe, butterflies or racing heart, as fearful and so we begin

to avoid those situations where we might experience those sensations.

As long as you know you’re safe with the sensations why not attach

excitement to the sensations instead of fear. That is a much healthier connection, right?


After all, we feel those same butterflies and racing heart when we ride a roller

 coaster or even see the person we love. Your heart skips a beat, right? How exciting!

Yes, it is exciting! Reframe your thoughts to something like..'wow how exciting', rather then,

'OMG I have to get outa here'! Simply reframing your thoughts while staying with the sensations

and not running from them will help you to overcome the anxiety.


To quote FDR..”You have nothing to fear but fear itself”. Boy was he onto something!


Helpful tips:


Keep a list of challenges your child would like to overcome. KEEP TRACK. Check them

off as they overcome them.


Reward them with much PRAISE (and maybe an ice-cream)!


They are little heroes taking on the world one challenge at a time. Try baby steps.

This is a process. Create a list and keep it on their wall or in a private journal if they prefer.

Most importantly keep at it and never give up. This is a process. Not an easy one. But one

 that really works if you DO THE WORK and well worth the freedom.


BUT it is not a process that you can just "know how" and have it work.

It is a "Know How and Do Now" process.


You must do the work. You must make a list of fearful situations

and go after them like a warrior.


But to do that you need to really want it. And that is personal.


You can want all you want for your child but if they don't want it bad enough it will

not work because it is only them that can push their threshold of fear to the other side.

There is a fine line between encouragement and badgering. Only you know your child.

Be patient. Give them the tools and support to be successful. They need to get to that point

 on their own when they decide to overcome a fear. They have to want the freedom of the

 fear more then anything because it takes a lot to sit through those sensations and stay with

them without fleeing the situations in order to overcome the fear. It IS hard. But as my little sister

who is a pediatric RN in a hospital once put it....'sometimes things just are...hard'. That stuck with me

and hopeful with you too. Sometimes we need to accept that things may be hard and do it anyway.


In time your child will decide when they want to 'do it anyway'.



You have given them the tools. Now you must wait and be patient until they are ready.



Once your child does overcome a fear don't stop there! Keep upping the challenge. Keep practicing! Keep movement 

and keep the process fresh in their mind. We have a tendency to become stagnant once

we overcome a fear and create a new comfort zone. I'm suggesting that you embrace the

idea that we do not need a comfort zone. Keep it moving and keep on reaching!


(PS this goes for you too Mom and Dad!) 



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